“A wise man’s question contains half the answer.” These words of wisdom are attributed to Solomon Ibn Gabirol ben Judah, an 11th-century Andalusian poet and Jewish philosopher, and he simply nailed the “question of the right question”.
Generally people are expecting to hear from a Tarot reader exactly what they are suspect. For instance, if a wife suspects that her husband is cheating on her, she expects to hear that from the Tarot reader. Any other answer – interpretation – would mean that the Tarot reader is wrong.
Unfortunately exactly these kind of human weaknesses are exploited by the frauds.
One of the most important things about Tarot is to formulate the right question to receive the possible most helpful answer. Tarot sometimes tells us what we need to know rather than what we want to know. Choose your question wisely to get the most helpful answer it is possible.
I prefer to ask questions such as “What can I do to enhance my chances of….” rather than ask “What my chances are…”
Generally Tarot questions are best framed with the words “how and what” which keeps your options open, rather than questions that have yes/no answers. Once you have decided what you want to know in general, break it down into specific thing you want to know exactly.
Most of the times you will want to consult the Tarot because you are facing a problem or challenge. Something about your life is troubling you, and you want to understand why it is happening and what you can do about it.
First of all, avoid doing or asking for a Tarot reading when you’re in a highly emotional state. If you’re very upset, sad, nervous, desperate, scared of something, try to calm down first and postpone the Tarot reading for another day (time).
Before formulating your question review your situation thoroughly. Think about all the people involved, directly or indirectly. Go over your options for the future. Let your mind wander freely. Keep your options open. You want to look at your problem without judging or censoring any part and you don’t want to miss out any possibility – favourable or not.
It’s nobody’s fault, but yours if things don’t work out your way. Just like it’s your merit if things are working out exactly as you expected. Remember that it is in your power to take decisions and make the right moves, but nobody else can do them for you and instead of you. The Tarot will show you the possibilities, but it’s up to you and only you. You cannot pass the responsibilities to anybody else. Tarot can’t and won’t make our decisions for us.
Also, keep in mind, Tarot it’s all about you, if you want to ask a question about someone else’s feelings or intentions, go ahead and ask them directly, but keep the Tarot cards out of it. Instead asking why somebody loves you, better ask yourself if you love that person and why.
– Write down your question. If you have trouble narrowing the focus of your question, try to put it in writing. This will help you to phrasing your question correctly.
– Focus on a single issue, only one question/problem at time.
– Don’t ask one thing and aspect an answer for another thing that really bothers you, but you are not comfortable to openly discuss it. Formulate your question directly and simply as possible, be specific. Find the best level of detail, avoid to be too vague or too detailed. Don’t assume that the cards – or the Tarot reader – will intuit your intention and your true question, will guess what you mean. Tarot is not a guessing game.
– Focus on yourself. Tarot it’s all about you and your problems.
– Avoid questions to be answered “Yes” or “No”. An example: “Will I get the job I’m hoping for?” Try to avoid this type of questions which can be difficult to answer with Tarot cards. Instead go for more open-ended inquiries, like “what can I do to get that job?”, “what can I do to improve my relationship?” or “what I can do to improve my relationship?”
– You need to stay as neutral as possible when thinking of your questions. It is easy to begin a reading convinced that your position is the right one, but if you truly want to receive guidance, you need to be open to other points of view.
– Keep your options open: do not include the solution you prefer in the question.
Instead asking “How might I convince my boss to give me the promotion?”, better ask “What can I do to improve at my job (workplace)?”
– Be positive when writing your questions. Instead asking “How come I can never get the jobs I want?”, better ask “What can I do to get those jobs?” or “How I can improve to get those jobs?”
– Avoid questions beginning with “Should…” and better rephrase with “what can I do to…”. For example, instead “Should I apply to more than one job?”, ask “What my chances are by applying to more than one job?” You need to take responsibility and accountability for your own life and your own decisions. It is better to ask the Tarot, “What can I expect if I do this or that?”
– When it is possible, include a time frame for the response, such as a week, a month, three months, six months, or twelve months. For example: “where is my career heading in the following twelve months?” or “what can I expect from my relationship in the following six months?”
– On the other hand, avoid questions asking only about time. Question such as “How long will it take to find a new job?” will never get a clear answer in Tarot. Nor “When will I get my promotion?” or “When will John ask me to marry him?”
– How I can improve my relationship with… (my partner, my boss, my colleagues, my neighbours, etc.)?
– How I can move my… (career, relationship, etc.) forward?
– How I can improve my abilities to… (communicate with, interact with, connect with, work with, collaborate with, etc.)?
– What can I do to get along better with (my partner, my boss, etc.)?
– What do I most need to know about… (my career, my relationship, my love life, the trip coming up, the vacation I will go, the next three months of my life, etc.)?
– What do I need to know to decide on… (my next step, the new job proposal, my relationship, etc.)?
– What do I need to understand about… (the situation I’m in, the problem I have, etc)?
– What do I need to know about… ?